SERVICES OFFERED:
COUPLES MARITAL COACHING | PRE-MARITAL | RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS FOR SINGLES | DIVORCE DECISION & RECOVERY |
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Relationships don’t come with an operating manual; however there are formulas that can be taught. Allow me to help you restore harmony, increase intimacy, create passion, and become your partner’s best friend using simple Relational Principles. You don’t need therapy, you just need Relational Principles.
My comfortable alternative to marriage counseling is focused on helping you gain greater self-awareness, uncover your specific emotional and sexual needs, and understand the specific and often frustrating needs of your partner. I will gently teach you relationship skills through effective exercises, individually or as a couple, to help you get your needs met and forgive past indiscretions.
I can help you deepen trust, align priorities, and avoid the “blind spots” by outlining the couple’s agreements ahead of time. I also guide couples through second marriages, to help you navigate the difficult and sensitive issues of blended families. I understand firsthand the pain of divorce and its devastating effects, especially on children.
I’ve combined my extensive research in the psychology of relationships with workshop facilitation and my own personal experience to gently guide you through those recurring issues around in-laws, sex, emotional affairs, communication, religion, money, children, unmet emotional needs, negligence, anger, unresolved issues, nonnegotiable requirements, divorce, ex partners, remarriage, dating, and difficult partners.
The Benefits of Couples Coaching:
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Helps you outline a detailed Marriage Contract or Agreement that is critical for Peace, Harmony, and Marriage Success
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Increases Trust By Avoiding “Relational Blind Spots”
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Teaches you how to Be Proactive Instead Of Reactive
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Assists You in Healing Old Wounds and Hurts
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Increases Relational Maturity and Relational I.Q.
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Shows You Why The Biggest Problems In Marriage Are Not Communication
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Teaches you How To Get Your Needs Met
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Increases Awareness of The Unique Differences Between Men and Women
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Teaches You How To Be Heard And How To Listen
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Teaches Men How To Please Women And Women How To Please Men |
We will explore the greatest enemy of marriage, the expectations and hidden assumptions, “the blind spots.” Through assessments and questionnaires, you will customize your very own detailed new Marriage Agreements. This agreement includes specifics on emotional, sexual, functional, and foundational issues around family, money, children, domestic chores, communication, holidays, religion, spending, etc., including what is a nonnegotiable.
You as the couple will take away priceless conflict resolution skills, understand possible emotional triggers, a detailed co created life plan, deepened trust, peace of mind, and realistic expectations for the success of your marriage and your own personal fulfillment. With the divorce rate at 53% for first marriages and 62% for second marriages, wouldn’t you like to restart your life together? If what you’re doing isn’t working, let’s try something different.
Testimonial:
"We were only in year 5 of our marriage when we both wanted to call it quits. We decided to separate. Then with nothing left to lose Denise talked us into participating in her Couples Program. First she worked with us separately so we both would feel heard and understood. Then she did some personality tests and taught us that we were in the Power Struggle Phase and showed us where we were misaligned. Now we “get” each other. We both finally feel understood."
- Kate and Max, Los Angeles, CA
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These sessions would make a great engagement or wedding gift as the couple starts their new life together.
Love, honor, and cherish are vague terms. Whether verbal or written, your Marriage Agreements should be more specific for your own happiness and the success of your marriage. You’ve spent countless hours, energy, and money planning the wedding. How many hours have you spent planning the marriage? What will the rest of your married life look like? Are you willing to leave it to chance?
Better to know your differences and expectations before the wedding. The Pre Marital sessions begin with personality assessments of both partners to discover how each partner will bring their individual strengths to the marriage and what unique challenges each partner will bring to the marriage.
Would you enter a new restaurant and place an order without looking at the menu? Would you start a job without knowing what the compensation is? Would you buy a home based on the exterior without seeing the inside? Enter a new religion without knowing what’s expected of you? Sign on the dotted line without knowing the terms and conditions?
We will explore the greatest enemy of marriage, the expectations and hidden assumptions, “the blind spots.” Through fun exercises and enlightening questionnaires, the bride and groom to be will customize their very own detailed new Marriage Agreements. This agreement includes specifics on emotional, sexual, functional, and foundational issues around family, money, children, domestic chores, communication, holidays, religion, spending, etc., including what is a deal breaker.
You as the couple will take away priceless conflict resolution skills, understand possible emotional triggers, a detailed co created life plan, deepened trust, peace of mind, and realistic expectations for the success of your marriage and the happiness of your future family. With the divorce rate at 53% for first marriages and 62% for second marriages wouldn’t you like to start your life together with deeper understanding?
Testimonial:
"My fiancé’ and I were deep into wedding plans when our families started arguing about each detail and expense. He was defensive of his family, I was defensive of my family. We couldn’t agree on anything. He threatened to call the whole thing off. Someone referred us to Denise, who quickly identified the problems and calmly negotiated each one of our needs. She used questionnaires, love languages, and fun exercises to expose the real issues with our families. Then she guided us to a peaceful resolution."
- Rob and Megan, Netherlands
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My Singles program is for you if:
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You have trouble understanding the opposite sex. With simple Gender Awareness and Dynamics you will better understand the unique differences of how most men think and what they look for in a long term partner. Even better, learn how to charm a man and get a man to commit.
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You’ve been devoted to your career and haven’t had much time to date. You will
learn yourself. Who you are as a single is not who you are in a couple. I’ll help
you explore barriers that may hamper your chances for Relational Success. |
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You have a history of picking the wrong partners. You will learn The Ten Principles
of Conscious Dating so you will attract the right person and not settle for less. Who you are willing to settle for is who you will end up with. Be the chooser. |
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You’ve been divorced and find it difficult to begin dating again. You will learn The Fourteen Dating traps. I will fully support you in easing back into dating. |
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Online Dating – I can help you create a great profile, assist you in screening matches,
and teach you the Red Flags. |
This Singles Program is designed to help you get these questions answered:
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Have I defined who I am looking for? |
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How do my past relationships affect my current relationships? |
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What’s my Love Language? |
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What kind of partner am I compatible with?
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What are my personality traits and how do they affect my relationships? |
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What are my nonnegotiable requirements? |
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Why do I seem to attract Mr. Wrong? |
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Who is a bad match for me? |
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What are my biggest insecurities around dating and relationships? |
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Why is sex a lethal weapon? |
Testimonial:
"Being a very successful, professional woman living and working in Manhattan I could get dates, but I seemed to scare them off after date two. I had a great business sense, however I lacked relational sense. I met Dr Dee, as my friends and I call her, at a workshop she was presenting. She gently showed us how to get in touch with our feminine side and leave the testosterone at the office. After she educated me to the Male-Female Dynamics I started feeling sexier, more charming, and confident in my dating. I’ve been exclusive with a guy for 4 months, first time in 5 years. I understand that I play the part of the girl now. Thank You Denise."
- Alexa M., Manhattan, NY
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The end of a relationship is very much like a death. How you deal with it and move on depends very much whether you made the decision to end the marriage or your partner did. If you made the decision you’re more likely to have made closure. If you did not make the decision to end the marriage, most likely it will be more difficult to make closure and move on with your life. You may even experience unresolved abandonment issues.
I understand, firsthand, that divorce can leave you feeling alone, angry, depressed, undesirable, financially assaulted, and scar the children. I gently offer a 3 step plan to help you grieve and move forward with your life.
• Grieve the Death of the Marriage and Heal the Wounds: Including a safe place to “hate” your ex. Then we’ll redefine who you are and rebuild your new core beliefs.
• Remove Barriers: A successful Divorce Decision and Recovery Plan identifies and dissolves the old way of relating, including how to relate with a difficult ex going forward, especially if children are involved.
• Moving Forward in Your New Life: When you feel ready, we will co create your new requirements, needs, and wants for yourself and your children, define the new nonnegotiables and deal breakers. Together we’ll use all the pain and lessons of the divorce and marriage to create future goals and visions of what your new life will look like.
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Grieve the Death of the Marriage and Heal the Wounds: Including a safe place to “hate” your ex. Then we’ll redefine who you are and rebuild your new core beliefs. |
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Remove Barriers: A successful Divorce Decision and Recovery Plan identifies and dissolves the old way of relating, including how to relate with a difficult ex going forward, especially if children are involved. |
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Moving Forward in Your New Life: When you feel ready, we will co create your new requirements, needs, and wants for yourself and your children, define the new nonnegotiables and deal breakers. Together we’ll use all the pain and lessons of the divorce and marriage to create future goals and visions of what your new life will look like. |
Divorce Decision and Recovery may help you:
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Decide whether or not to dissolve a marriage |
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Dissolve fears about the future |
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Release emotional triggers |
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Dissolve anger |
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Forgive an unforgivable ex |
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Bring closure to the relationship |
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Grieve the relationship |
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Help you relate to your difficult ex as little and painlessly as possible |
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Assist you in feeling empowered |
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Re-enter the dating world |
Testimonial:
"I thought ALL divorced people felt the same. I was bitter and angry that my ex husband was able to move on with his life and his new girlfriend. I read an article Denise wrote and I called her. She explained that the partner who was left grieves the marriage like a death differently than the one who does the leaving. She patiently saw me through this process and helped me heal my wounds and together we co created a new plan for my life. It was a wonderful process."
- P.G., Philadelphia,PA
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